Bookstore Bonanza

Dear readers, I did it. I went to a new bookstore (a big 2-story Borders), bravely sought out the naughty section, and even (gasp!) made a purchase.

It wasn't easy. I wandered around for quite a while before I found anything good. I didn't expect there to be giant SEXY BOOKS OVER HERE signs to point the way, but sheesh, there's gotta be a way to make the good stuff easy to find, yet not in full view of the coffee bar and children's section.

Anyway. Among my wanderings, I saw this book and the cover made me laugh. Fae lust? For realz?

Then I found the self-help books, which always seem like they should include some good stuff on sex, but never do. I mean come on, when you see Dr. Laura smiling out at you, you know it's not getting sexy in that section.

The hottest thing I found here was:

Puh-leeze.

But finally, upstairs in a back corner at the end of the literature section, I found it. Eureka! Two big fat cases full of sexy reads.

I thought it was funny that the official category here was Sex/Fertility/Contraception. There were ZERO books on fertility and contraception, and a LOT of books on Kama Sutra.

The erotica looked pretty good too. Quite a few Penthouse anthologies, which I'm assuming aren't really my taste, but lots of other books that looked intriguing. Has anyone ever tried the Sleeping Beauty books by Anne Rice?

I love love love this title (and it's totally cheap at Amazon):

But this was the book that finally tempted me to get out my wallet. Full color photos of good looking people engaging in literally hundreds of positions. At last, I've found what I was looking for:

My bookstore bill went over $70 in the end. Oops.

Then I came home, set up an Amazon store for this site, and discovered that all these books are MUCH cheaper on Amazon. So, lesson learned.

And, if you like any of our book, movie, martini, and "toy" recommendations, please consider making a purchase through our Amazon store. We'll get a pittance, which we'll plow back into this important work we're doing here. Thanks!

A Little Bit Kinky

There was a time, before kids of course but mostly before marriage too, when I enjoyed getting a little bit kinky. When the relationship is still relatively new and you don't know all of each other's secrets yet, it can be easier to let loose, experiment, suddenly become the kind of person who would do...anything.

Ironically, although years of marriage obviously make you more intimate and comfortable with one another, all that knowing can also put a damper on the adventurous side of sex. Couples tend to settle into their sexual routines: a couple of positions, a few reliable moves, an understanding of what is likely to occur.

Sound boring? Agreed.

That's why I've been thinking of how to make things just A Little Bit Kinky. Here are a few ideas:

1. If your sex life is pure vanilla, maybe a silk scarf tying your wrists together will be incredibly edgy (and drive you incredibly up the wall?). Or, just ask husband to pin down your arms or hold your wrists above your head.

2. On your next date night, suggest that the two of you visit an adult shop together. Make it a rule that you each need to buy something the other will enjoy.

3. If you can pull off a full S&M outfit complete with leather and whip--hey, we say go for it. But most of us would freak out our husbands or (worse) make them laugh. So instead, try something just a little kinkier than your usual going-to-bed outfit. Black lacy bra? Thigh-high stockings? High heels in bed? Crotchless teddy?

4. Try a new position. Doggy style. Reverse cowgirl. Sitting up on a counter while he stands in front of you. (I still need to find a book on sexual positions. I'll do that and write a whole post on the subject sometime in the future, I promise!)

5. Pain can feel good. Ever gotten a spanking in bed? Or shoved a lover down hard? A little roughness at just the right time can be just what the (sex) doctor ordered.