But I think a much more important phenomenon (and one worth investing real money in) is the sexcation. This is a getaway for husband and wife without the kids. We tell our relatives, babysitters and friends that it's to relax and reconnect, but the subtext is always the same: HOTEL SEX.
I've done a few weekends away with the husband since we started procreating. They are wonderful little oases of bliss, and yes, the hotel sex has been gooood.
But. You knew there'd be a but. BUT--the problem I've found is that just one or two nights away (which is all we've managed) is. Not. Nearly. Enough. For one thing, the time rushes by too quickly. For another, it's hard to really relax when you know you're going back home to the monsters the next day. And for yet another, it can also be hard to have mind blowing sex when there's all this pressure because you only got that hotel room for 24 or 48 hours.
That's why I think I need an entire WEEK away. A friend of mine who has three kids recently did a whole week in Hawaii with her husband. She said the moment they arrived they drank mai tais and then literally passed out on lounge chairs and slept the rest of the day. They needed that entire first day just to decompress! But by day three of the trip, they stopped worrying about the kids and trading cute stories of what the littlest one had done lately...and really connected with each other and got down to the good stuff.
Sadly, for many of us an entire week away is a pipe dream, whether for financial or babysitting logistics reasons. But if you're like another friend of mine, who has two kids and has never done even a single night away with her husband...then I say, find the money and DO IT. Find a cheap hotel somewhere, get a relative to watch the kids, and GO. It may not be ideal, but even one night of hotel sex is worth the effort.
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