Oprah is conspiring against me. Last week she had a show about women who leave their husbands and become lesbians. And then Monday, the famed FLDS episode showed the wives all taking care of their children together. This would've normally fallen on deaf ears, (blind eyes?) since I have no desire to switch teams. But this morning, as I was rushing off to the gym, my kids dressed but missing shoes, I thought back to when my sister was visiting.My husband was at work and my sister and I were heading out to shop or whatever, and as I was applying deodorant I heard her say to my son, "Hey, let's get some shoes on." And she found shoes and socks and I had ended up with some extra minutes to breathe.
This morning,...my husband home for vacation, both kids shoeless and I have an appointment to keep,...and nothing. I started putting shoes on one kid and asked, "Can you put shoes on the other one?" Then the questions, "Where are his shoes? Did you get socks for him?"
My sister, who lives two states away, has been to my house about three times, my husband lives here. And she was able to intuit the need for shoes and socks and where they were hiding.
So, now, Oprah's push for me to become a lesbian is looking better everyday. I can't be the only one who sometimes fantasizes about having a wife? Is the only thing holding me back the sex with women? I've seen The L Word, not too shabby.
The other day I was reading an article in the New York Times called "What Do Women Want?" the gist of which was that while men are generally aroused more specifically, women tended to be more open to what could arouse them. So, straight men were aroused by seeing images of male/female as well as female/female sexual activity. But straight women were aroused by gay sex and straight sex. There are a few evolutionary reasons for this and maybe even some cultural. It's not seen as gross if we admire a beautiful woman. (Read the article, it's long but worth it).
It's fascinating to me. It's certainly not unusual for a straight woman to be aroused by another woman. And couple that with the whole "it takes a village." We could all just get together and form our own village. Help each other with the kids and listen to each other. Take turns cooking meals and have someone working beside you who just instinctively knows why you wash the dishes that way and then reaches for a towel to dry what's in the rack. And there are many things I would do for that kind of help. The least of which is sex with a beautiful woman.





I would love to have a wife. Someone to know when baseball practice is, whose turn it is to pick up the kids, which kid has a doctor's appointment, why this one has to see an ophthalmologist, not an optometrist, someone who would make all the food for when the in-laws come over for dinner. I do all of this for someone else, while also bringing home bacon, and I'd be so grateful for someone to do the same for me, and remember what kind of toothpaste I like.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it's my younger age, but I'm shocked your husband didn't give you a hand in getting the kids ready-- it's not your job just because your a woman, its the sort of behavior that parents should share in.
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